I often ask women if they are ready to be in love instead of just dreaming about it. And as you can imagine, the answers are almost always, HELL YES! The problem is, they usually interpreted my question incorrectly, thinking I’m asking them whether they WANT to be in love?  So they respond to the wrong questions.  Again, the question is, are you ready for the love you say you want? Are you ready for a meaningful, lasting relationship?

Willing and Wanting or Ready and Able?

Being ready for the kind of quality love you say that you want demands so much more than merely wanting to be attached–even if you want it really, really bad. Quality love comes from operating on another level.  When you’re no longer worried about searching for love, or tap dancing to show your worth or looking for someone to validate you.

On this level, being ready is about an energy shift. Transforming the way you think about love. What you believe about yourself, and your sense of worthiness to have such a love.   Also, changing your perceptions about relationships in general and more importantly about yourself as a quality partner.  Only then can you attract and cultivate a fulfilling and lasting relatiosnhip.

Give Quality Love to Receive Quality Love

The truth is we are always so worried about the quality of love we want to RECEIVE, we give little or no thought to the quality of love we GIVE. The Universal Law of Attraction says: like energy attracts like energy.  This means that you are the co-creator of every loving relationship you’ve ever been a part of–good or bad. This also means that the work to be done is on yourself.

Your job right now is to level up your partner prep. Fall in love with the best of yourself, and emit the quality energy you want to be returned. This is the most important work you can do to prepare for that powerful, dynamic, delicious love that is out there awaiting you.

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Hi, I’m Lori Certified Spiritual Love Coach, Author, Confidence Peddler, Angel Scribe, Irreverent Spiritualist, Girl Power Advocate, Love Connoisseur, Sun Lover, Cloud Watcher, Founder, SOL Innovations Coaching Group, The SOLSexy Transformation program and Proud Mom. That’s me, but here’s my official bio:

Lori is a fierce advocate for self-love and the positive ripple effect it has on the larger world. She is an intuitive life/spiritual coach, certified by the International Coach Federation (ICF), author, speaker, and teacher who specializes in 1:1 life coaching centered around self-love and soul alignment. She is also a transformational coach with We Inspire Justice, a social impact group who works with celebrities, influencers and content providers to promote equality, diversity and social justice within the entertainment industry and beyond.

Lori is an Emmy award-winning writer, and author of eight books, and is currently working on her ninth. She is a passionate and motivating speaker who has facilitated workshops all over the country and in Mexico. She is the Health and Wellness Director for the Life Luxe Jazz Festival and is responsible for the creative development and execution of the two-day programming centered around financial, physical, and emotional wellness for POC. She is a founding expert and programming chair of the Living Healthy List, an online source for honest and reliable information of health, wellness, personal development.

Her motto: True Masters Learn through Joy