Lately, I’ve been eating chocolate. Lots of chocolate. My favorites are Dove bites, those yummy squares of cocoa heaven that come with pearls of wisdom tucked inside the wrapper. To justify my habit, I started collecting them to use as writing prompts.  Today’s sweet advice:  Discover how much your heart can hold.

When you think about it, this is a difficult concept to wrap your arms around. Discovering how much your heart can hold means leaving it wide open to experiencing all that love has to offer, which without fail, includes some level of pain.

Whether it be unrequited love, betrayal, rejection, ill-timed, or tragically lost, like sunshine and rain, pain often becomes the price for loving. The fear of being hurt is always a possibility and for many of us, its reality.  To love freely enough to make this valuable discovery of understanding how much your heart can hold is counter-intuitive.

Let me tell you the truth. Love will never hurt you, it cannot and it will not. It simply doesn’t work that way.

I always find it interesting that most of us have no issue pursuing our professional dreams with passion and gusto. We fuel up on ambition and go for it. We stumble and fall but pick ourselves up and are off and running again, gobbling up success until are egos are stuffed.

But not so much with our hearts. We protect and isolate this very icon of passion like a frail newborn, forgetting that it is the most resilient and giving treasure of all. Its capacity is infinite, and yet, we’re afraid to discover just how much love our hearts can hold because of who might come along and crack it.

Love is the Cure

Here’s a perspective shift for you:  A cracked heart leaks is love, so worst case, you already have the antidote for what ails you!

The thing is when you let the fear of loving hold you back, you keep yourself tethered to the post of unfulfilled potential. You essentially rob yourself of a multitude of personal lessons and successes. So, start to discover your heart’s capacity by giving yourself a strong dose of love every day. Compliment yourself, see yourself the way you want to be seen, and treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.

Begin there, and you’ll soon be convinced that you’re are not only loveable but worthy of it as well. And once that mindset shift happens, you’ll experience the joy of a heart bursting with all that you meant to experience—joy, abundance, and yes, goo gobs and goo gobs of love.

Remember the more you practice loving, the better you are at it. And the better quality of love you can give, the better quality of love you will receive. So, get out there and discover just how much your heart can hold and in time you will be ready for the love you say you want.


With love, Lori!



Hi, I’m Lori Certified Spiritual Love Coach, Author, Confidence Peddler, Angel Scribe, Irreverent Spiritualist, Girl Power Advocate, Love Connoisseur, Sun Lover, Cloud Watcher, Founder, SOL Innovations Coaching Group, The SOLSexy Transformation program and Proud Mom. That’s me, but here’s my official bio:

Lori is a fierce advocate for self-love and the positive ripple effect it has on the larger world. She is an intuitive life/spiritual coach, certified by the International Coach Federation (ICF), author, speaker, and teacher who specializes in 1:1 life coaching centered around self-love and soul alignment. She is also a transformational coach with We Inspire Justice, a social impact group who works with celebrities, influencers and content providers to promote equality, diversity and social justice within the entertainment industry and beyond.

Lori is an Emmy award-winning writer, and author of eight books, and is currently working on her ninth. She is a passionate and motivating speaker who has facilitated workshops all over the country and in Mexico. She is the Health and Wellness Director for the Life Luxe Jazz Festival and is responsible for the creative development and execution of the two-day programming centered around financial, physical, and emotional wellness for POC. She is a founding expert and programming chair of the Living Healthy List, an online source for honest and reliable information of health, wellness, personal development.

Her motto: True Masters Learn through Joy