Having healthy self-esteem is important. It takes courage to self-advocate for a promotion at work. The same self-care helps you speak up when a friend or loved one crosses one of your boundaries. Struggling with confidence is perfectly normal. With some advice, you can feel more comfortable. Keep reading this post for the secrets to raising your self-esteem that everyone needs to know.
Understand Your Flaws
We all have flaws—we’re human beings. Although we may not like every detail we see in the mirror, that doesn’t mean we should dislike our whole self. If you feel like you’re a bad listener and want to change that, practice that skill when communicating with others.
However, if you don’t like the way you laugh or look, remind yourself that you’re perfect and beautiful the way you are. You can’t change these things about yourself; they make you a unique individual.
Help Others
One of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to lend a helping hand to someone in need. Maybe you live next door to a set of busy parents with a couple of kiddos; offer to babysit so they can get a night out. Or you could look into organizing a donation drive to collect goods for a local charity.
Helping others makes us feel good because it proves how powerful your impact is on the lives of others. This also helps you constructively redirect your thoughts so that you can think about something other than those intrusive thoughts of self-doubt.
Have a Morning Mantra
Every morning when you wake up, say something nice to yourself or come up with a mantra: “today’s going to be a great day.” Try to say this to yourself every day. If you forget, write it on a note that you can stick to your mirror or fridge so that you always see it. Starting the day with a positive mindset helps you feel more prepared for everything the universe throws your way.
Talk to Others
Self-doubt can feel isolating, but you’re never alone in that feeling. We’ve all questioned ourselves to some degree. Some of us are harder on ourselves. Never fear leaning on friends or relatives for support. Ask them what they do to feel more confident.
Practice Self-Compassion
Some days, feeling confident may be harder than others, and every life situation is different. You may feel confident with yourself when you’re alone but struggle a bit on nights out. All your feelings are valid, and one of the best ways to raise your confidence is by giving yourself the same compassion you give to others.
Making mistakes is okay. You’re only human, and we all have different flaws and weaknesses. What’s most important is you leave your beautiful impact on our world.
Dianne Pajo is a Certified Personal Trainer based out of the Chicagoland area with a passion for music, combat sports, and animals. She enjoys competing in amateur boxing and kickboxing, but in her other leisure time, you can find her outdoors and performing music around the city. She is also a dog mom of 2.