Let’s be honest. None of us are perfectEverybody has at least one character defect.  The way you choose to mitigate or change your bad habits defines you as a person.

Life is non-linear and non- stagnant, and again, nobody is perfect. Keep that in mind, be gentle to yourself and open your mind as you discover your character defects and work towards changing them. When we take a hard look at what is not serving us, we can begin to Own Our Story. Change happens when we see and acknowledge our defects.


What Are Character Defects?       


Character defects are the harmful or toxic traits that hinder your growth and cause complications and personal issues in your life. It could be a vice, habits, or a certain way of thinking. Often it’s s something that you are aware of.  Perhaps you’ve recognized it as a problem area in your life that you would like to fix.  Only you can make these changes but you must accept accountability first.


 How To Change My Personality


Personality changes don’t happen overnight. It is a long game. As humans, we spend most of our lives changing and evolving.  The important thing is to acknowledge and work on an issue in your life and take action to fix it. Personality has to do with your mind and the way you think. Here are some steps and things to think about as you work on overcoming what you believe is holding you back.


 Progress Not Perfection


Nobody is perfect. I know I have said that a few times already but it’s important for you to appreciate that.  We spend the majority of our lives working to better ourselves. The goal is to start the process and make progress.  You may not find the solution right away. It is the steps you take towards the solution that count.

Although time is linear, remember that progress and life are very much non-linear in how and when events in life happen. It’s okay if something doesn’t work. The key is to keep trying.


Replace Behaviors  


Malicious behavior has got to go! Bad habits like drinking, smoking, or binge eating does not serve you.  Instead, engage in positive activities that you can use to distract yourself.  It can be something productive like starting a workout routine, but it doesn’t need to be.

Aim for something less harmful than whatever it is you are trying to replace.  This will do one of two things.

  • Rewire your brain until eventually you won’t focus or crave that harmful activity
  • Give you less time to think about it.




Whatever you do, don’t give up! Continuously seek ways to change and improve yourself as a person. bad habits are not an overnight fix but an ongoing process. We will spend our whole lives improving and becoming better versions of ourselves each time. It won’t be perfect, but the idea is to chase progress, not perfection.


Let Go


Let go of old negative behaviors from your past—work towards conquering past pain so that you may move forward. Release the things that stop you from moving forward, make you bitter,  bear a grudge and anything that makes you unhappy.  When you remove the bitter edge to your personality you propel forward and give up things that no longer serve you.




Envision what you want for yourself and who you want to be.   Make yourself a role model for yourself.  by doing so you provide yourself something to strive towards. Control your narrative. You can become the type of person you want to be. You have the power to change. Not instantly, but slowly over time.

Everybody has something that could be considered a character defect. Nobody is perfect, and we are continually growing and evolving. By identifying your problem areas and making a plan towards fixing them, you will be better able to control your own narrative allowing you to live a  longer, healthier life.

It’s time to Hack Your Way Well!