A funny thing happened on the way to inhabiting this aging body… I started to like it more. Even though I have gained weight over the years and parts of me are not quite in the same places as they were before, I actually feel more loving and more at home in this body. What I’ve come to learn is that how I feel about my body has less to do with what it looks like and more to do with how I feel about myself in general. I realized that the more loving and accepting I am about myself and my body, the freer and more open I feel sexually. Guess what follows? The more comfortable I feel as I accept this only body that I have, the better the sex becomes. It’s all connected … love yourself, love your body, love the sex.
Love Yourself
Regardless of the question, the answer always seems to come back to “love yourself”. As Mel Robbins says, “simple but not easy.” As I say, ‘totally worth the effort’! Loving yourself comes down to trusting yourself to figure things out, accepting yourself for all the parts you want and the parts you may not want, and deeply respecting yourself with both your thoughts and actions. The mental baggage that you carry about your body, and how it compares to other bodies, is one of the big stumbling blocks to accepting yourself just as you are in this moment.
Love Your Body
Deeply appreciate your body – no matter what it looks like, for all that it is capable of, and you will treat it with respect. Rest, nourish, and move it daily.
Regularly treating it with respect will result in a body that is stronger, more fit, and more capable.
You can love your body as it is, and still want it to be more fit, not because it will make you “better” in some amorphous way, but because when you love someone you want what is best for her.
Love the Sex
When you shine your love light on someone, in this case, YOU, you help to light them up inside and that just feels awesome. Feeling awesome leads to feeling more confident, more empowered, and less judgmental. Together, this helps you feel more comfortable in your body… and comfortable to ask for what you want and give fully of yourself in bed.
Write a Love Letter to Your Body
Spend time grateful for all that your body can offer and do for you, and you will begin to love yourself more deeply. I am sharing a Body-Gratitude meditation with you here that you can return to as often as you like to remind you of all the miracles your body performs daily.
I also encourage you to write your own Body-Love Meditation. I got the idea from a talented meditation teacher and friend, whose idea was sparked by a meditation she heard. Let this be a source of inspiration for you to think deeply about what you love and appreciate about your body. My wish for you is that this leads you further down the beautiful path of falling deeply in love with yourself. Read more about how to Become Your Greatest Love Story here.
Remember, Love Yourself, Love Your Body, Love the Sex!
Lauren Yellin Weinberg, MS, NBC-HWC
As The Becoming Coach, Lauren empowers her clients to become more confident, calm, and connected and to architect the wildly wonderful life they have always imagined. A National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and a Certified Happiness Coach, with a background as a psychologist and family therapist, she is committed to a whole-person, empirically-based process that creates lasting mindset and wellbeing changes. Her transformational coaching is designed to accelerate and support personal and professional success while inspiring her clients to fall in love with who they are becoming.
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